Love is about so many aspects of the human experience its hard to capture in a single page. In its simplest form I would describe it in three words; courage, connection and consciousness.
Love is a choice. We make the choice to love, nurture and respect ourselves. We choose to see and react to the world from a place of kindness and acceptance. When we choose Love for ourselves we are showing those around us our place in this world.
Love is giving yourself permission to be imperfect. Imperfection is the seat of growth, learning, and forgiveness. Once you accept imperfection in yourself you can observe it in others without judgement.
"You yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
When we agree to embark on the journey to better health we are choosing a different life to the one we are experiencing right now, one that hasn’t served us thus far, maybe as we don’t have the energy, vitality, comfort and peace that seems just out of our reach. For some of us with deep physical pains and mental anguish it can appear unachievable.
Through a strong sense of self we can begin to reflect, change perceptions and experience the full spectrum of our emotions. Suppressing emotions is not selective. If we chose to shut down and not feel the lows we are therefore shutting down from experiencing joy, gratitude, appreciation and love. We therefore have to retrain our emotional centre to be able to fully experience all emotions. You have to be curious, willing to look inside, courageous to go where your feelings and intuitions take you, however uncomfortable, and through re-connecting with greater awareness you rediscover a strong sense of self, establishing a pattern of observation without evaluation and reactivity.
Love begins with the development of our own self-care habits. These are our beliefs and routines in life that we know resonate and support us with feelings of wellbeing. Through defining your self-care habits, you are creating your lifestyle choices. These can be identified within The 4 Principles, what supports you with your nutrition, movement, breathing and Love.
"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we'll ever do"
Developing effective Self-care strategies is how you regain your power. Effective self-care starts with self-compassion, being kinder to yourself knowing you are not alone in suffering and harnessing mindfulness in every moment. Once you develop the understanding that you have no reason to compare yourself to anyone else you begin the pathway back to self-confidence. From here your courage takes you further into self-discovery with a desire to experience all of your emotions, sitting with them, processing them and eventually releasing them.
Being able to experience whatever is happening in and around you awakens you in to full consciousness. What this means is that you are prepared to just be with whatever is arising without aversion or attachment. It is at this point that we begin to stop reacting from a place without the full understanding of what’s really happening. When we react without true understanding we are living unconsciously unaware of what is triggering inside us making us feel ill and unsettled. Unconscious living is where most of us live most of the time. When in an unconscious living state you are unable to feel what’s going on in and around you. This might help short term in a crisis to keep you functioning but it prevents you from making wise intuitive choices and learning the truth within the situation. Moving in to conscious awareness can feel unsettling and vulnerable to start with but this enables you to grow and learn how situations or feelings are arising to heal you in many different ways.
"Everyone needs love, without love we cannot continue."
Thich Nhat Hanh
Moving form unconscious living to conscious living takes curiosity to enquire internally, and courage because you have to look deep inside at aspects of yourself that you would rather avoid. To be able to do this you have to develop self-love, compassion and kindness.
The 4 Principles of health and wellbeing and the ten step resilience programme helps you to develop the tools to start afresh with no blame or judgement to realise all your health goals and begin to feel full of vitality and wellbeing.
"You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously"